To Keep or To Give Away?


Packing Andy's toys in the moving box
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To keep or to give away?

June is here and we have about 8 weeks before we relocate to India. All weekends until Mid-July from now have been held reserve to meet friends and colleagues.  I finish work at the end of this month and up until now I was hoping that I could start packing from 1st of July and that it should be fine. But with commitments made to meet friends and colleagues in July and to do things that I think ‘I must do’ before I leave UK and with Bambi’s summer break at school fast approaching, I don’t think leaving packing till July would be a good idea.

So finally, during the last weekend, I decided to do some decluttering. I started off with an intention to clear off some of our boots/shoes and coats/jackets that will not be actually of much use in India. As I was pulling out each coat/jacket from the wardrobe, I was deciding whether to keep it or to give it away and thus ended up creating two piles – ‘to keep’ and ‘to give away’ pile.When I had managed to sort out all our coats/jackets, the pile for ‘giving away’ looked larger than ‘to keep’ pile.  Ideally I would have liked to keep them all but sadly I cannot be taking everything in the house with me to India. Hence the decision to keep only the absolutely necessary items and give away rest of the items.

Next I decided to sort out some of Bambi’s toys as currently there are toys everywhere in the house .The toy boxes are full of toys as a result of which these days the toys can be found in other places – in the kitchen, on the sofas, near the fireplace, on top of the beds and even in the bathroom. Hence I thought perhaps clearing some of the toys would be a good idea and that our house would also look a little neater. Bambi doesn’t play with a lot of them anyway. I had few empty cartons in the loft and I decided that toys which Bambi doesn’t play with anymore can go in there for now and later the boxes can be given away just like that.

As I was sorting out the toys I was still thinking of some of the coats that I had placed in the ‘give away’ pile and I decided to take another look at this pile to decide which ones I really didn’t need anymore. Soon I was sorting out the jackets/coats again and ended up deciding that I wanted to keep them all. I can’t give them away just yet.

Meanwhile, a certain ‘brave soldier’ had rescued few animals that were seemingly packed inside a box by a ‘Mommy’ with an intention to send them to the zoo (oh dear!). Now that they were not going to the zoo anymore, the happy animals had lined up for a running race. On your marks, get set, go…….

Running Race.pngI guess they are not ready to be given away yet. OK let’s keep them too. No doubt, this is going to be a tough decision – what to give away and what to keep?



This post is part of A to Z Challenge for April 2016. For letter R, I am choosing Relocation.


A to Z Challenge April 2016:  R for Relocation

The biggest thing on my mind these days is our relocation plan. The plan was conceived exactly a year ago on our 10th anniversary when I had asked Preeth, relocating to India as my gift.

12 years ago when Preeth and I first met, Preeth had been living in the UK for about 5 years then. I was living in India and had never travelled abroad. It was Preeth’s higher education that initially brought him to the UK and later it was his job that kept him in the UK. Marriage brought me to UK and 11 years have passed by since. However, Preeth and I have always wanted to return to India for good.

And so, exactly a year ago, we committed ourselves to return back to India this year. From that day onwards, we have really only been working towards this goal. First and foremost Preeth started looking for a job in India. We were lucky that he was able to find a nice job pretty much straight away. I have been enhancing my experience, knowledge and skills so as to shape my career to make it attractive to prospective employers in India. We started looking for schools for Bambi too and we are glad that she has got admission in a good school. So, big things all sorted. Still a plenty of other things remain to be sorted out .

I finally handed in my resignation to my boss yesterday. It was quite hard for me because if it was not for relocation, I would not have quit this job so soon. Strangely, instead of feeling happy and liberated because relocating to India is what I have really ever wanted, I feel quite sad and emotional. The reality has only just sunk in and I hope we have taken the right decision. Afterall, we are giving up an entire life, a well settled life, built here in the UK to start a new life in India.

The 3 month countdown to relocation has begun and there is an awful lot to do: Shutting down everything here and starting up fresh in India. I hope all goes well. I plan to start a relocation chronicle in the following weeks.  For now, I will call it a day.